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Originally Posted by Shamou  Try the backseat of the car...  
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And there, ladies and gentlemen, is the smartest thing that will ever be said on any personal development forum ever, 'cause it's so true.
Eric, when Shamou asks what would be the condition would be for happiness, I think what he means is there's usually something very specific. For me, my happiness is utterly contingent on having symbiotic loving connections with other humans. One problem I used to have, being a dreadful overachiever, was never wanting to appear anything less than perfect in front of people. If I was depressed, I didn't want loved ones to see me. If I had a bad zit, same deal. (I'm serious.) When you put forth this image of being perfect rather than being yourself, you fail to connect and I couldn't be happy, because not only could I not receive help for my problems, but I couldn't honestly give because I was afraid of exposing negative life experience that might have made me look imperfect.