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Originally Posted by Boreas  This feeling always carries with it a sense of deep loss, like now, there is something missing in your life, when before it was just fine.
What are some good ways to stop obsessing over something, even if you
know in your mind that it is irrational? (This is especially true with movie stars) |
Hi,
the major problem here is that all the advice that focuses of rationality, willpower and insight has little chance to go anywhere fast - if at all.
Thought, rationality, language etc. are located in certain parts of the brain (neocortex) while feelings, emotions etc. (like the ones you describe) reside in entirely different parts of the brain (limbic system).
That is why "you know in your mind that it is irrational" but that doesn't change anything. And you cannot simply "stop thinking about it". Sometimes emotions get weaker over time, but not always.
I recommend methods that belong to Energy Psychology, like EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), BSFF (Be Set Free Fast) and EmoTrance (my favorite).
These techniques are self-help methods that can and have been successfully applied in therapy, too. They work with high percentages of success and usually surprisingly fast.
For more information you can search this forum or easily google these methods.