Well, in many of my recent conversations I can't say that I wanted to create love or affinity, as they were more or less business conversations.
But when I'm thinking of talking to my friend and having creating affinity on my mind, I can't help but think that this is too big a thing to start my improvement in this area with. That's why my starting steps were small - just look the person in the eye (is that too much to expect of myself?). I thought if I could just manage this, I would have a foothold in a conversation - a knowledge that I can be better at it if I just try enough - and it would enable me to try something more significant.
Perhaps if you explained how exactly your proposal should work, how my desire to create affinity should direct the course of the conversation, I might have a better idea. But as I said, I can't help but feel that going about it that way it just seems too big.
As for the buzzer thing... would I get the same effect if I just pinched myself when I started the conversation? Having a vibrator and a remote for it is just bizzare.  |