Does this happen with EVERYbody? Family, friends, strangers? Can you identify a key factor in a conversation that makes you go unconscious?
You might want to try inventing a specific possibility for your conversations -- like creating presence or love or affinity. If you are focusing on a positive intention for your conversations (instead of focusing on eye contact or trying not to go unconscious) that might give you more of a "will to live" in your communication.
You could practice with a trusted friend, tell her what you're doing and ask for your help. Chances are, your friends are affected by your deadness and would be glad to assist you in revitalizing your relationship.
(or you could get one of those little toys where you have a vibrator tucked away in a sensitive spot and you operate it with a remote control. Give your conversations a buzz!) |