Thanks Helly, that's good advice.
That's what I keep telling my friend; the first time she threatened suicide unless he went over I told him not to go, but to call the police to check in on her instead. He caved.
I also kept telling him that she was ultimately responsible for her own life, and he couldn't take that responsibility from her, even if she did end it, it wouldn't have been his choice but hers.
Unfortunately, what I say doesn't seem to go through
You and Elaine bring up very good points, and it is difficult to see a good friend go through something unhealthy when you know he deserves better. But ultimately
I'm also not responsible for him; and that's the hardest bit: to say and do everything I can and still just let him be, because ultimately it's his own life and he has to make his own choices.
I'll do my best to talk to him again when I can catch him without her.