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SuperDuperDude · 08-31-2007, 04:20 AM

I have social phobia, and I have a way of thinking about past things i've said, and wondering if it was dumb or offensive or something.

So, I was wondering if you guys could help me determine if I was dumb:

First situation: I was about 18 or 19... I was at a doctors office... well, more like an orthodontist... I was seeing a lot of different dentists to determine if a government organization would pay for my braces.

One of the dentist came in and asked me "Why are you here?".... to this I was speechless... I didn't know what to say, I turned to my Mom... and after a brief moment of silence she started to answer for me... she said something like "he needs to.." then the dentist interrupted with "He NEEDs to talk" I was so embarrassed

What he was doing was seeing if I had a speech problem, by getting me to talk....

Second situation: My sister brought a friend over. I came downstairs to do something... then I stopped at the bottom of the stairs to say something to my sister... before I turned to go back upstairs, I said to the guy "hey man"... you know, just to say hello.... he didn't reply.. or maybe he did and I didn't here him....

After that I got to thinking about if it was dumb to say "Hey, man"....

Am I being to hard on myself or did I really act weird in these situations?

08-31-2007, 04:20 AM	#1 (permalink)
SuperDuperDude Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 6	Was I dumb in these situations? Analizing past social encounters... I have social phobia, and I have a way of thinking about past things i've said, and wondering if it was dumb or offensive or something. So, I was wondering if you guys could help me determine if I was dumb: First situation: I was about 18 or 19... I was at a doctors office... well, more like an orthodontist... I was seeing a lot of different dentists to determine if a government organization would pay for my braces. One of the dentist came in and asked me "Why are you here?".... to this I was speechless... I didn't know what to say, I turned to my Mom... and after a brief moment of silence she started to answer for me... she said something like "he needs to.." then the dentist interrupted with "He NEEDs to talk" I was so embarrassed What he was doing was seeing if I had a speech problem, by getting me to talk.... Second situation: My sister brought a friend over. I came downstairs to do something... then I stopped at the bottom of the stairs to say something to my sister... before I turned to go back upstairs, I said to the guy "hey man"... you know, just to say hello.... he didn't reply.. or maybe he did and I didn't here him.... After that I got to thinking about if it was dumb to say "Hey, man".... Am I being to hard on myself or did I really act weird in these situations?