Thanks for all your responses Angelea, ZHereford, and wolfgang.
My initial reaction to my behavior was the same as Angela's & ZHereford's ... Get the F*** out & don't hurt her anymore. But, as i thought about it i realized i do still care about her.
Thanks especially to wolfgang. Reading your posts i felt a calm energy and I feel like you really hit the nail on the head. Especially this part:
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Then the hope is the attraction can be uncovered again. I think it's easier to work on the issues and find a way to have a heart to heart with her. Nothing like that to rediscover attraction. As opposed to just trying to do the motions physically and thinking that will turn it all around - maybe that will but it would just be a physical thing, you need to figure out how to reconnect then get physical naturally, imo.
Then use that feeling to guide you. As a message of what you want and don't want. Tell yourself the only reason you did make out with a mutual friend was just so you know what you don't want and don't want to do.
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Thanks again to all of you.
namaste