 How to move on?
HI, first time posting! I've been dealing with a situation for the last few weeks and reading other threads along the same lines has really helped.
My problem is a guy that I became friends with and who pursued me. We work together and he became VERY flirty. Really it went beyond flirting. I tried to keep things easy as I was just ending a relationship and trying to get moved out. I wanted to do the "right" thing. He asked for my number and started texting me and asking for photos of myself. We exchanged numerous emails and texts talking about life, past relationships, sex, everything. Then out of the blue he starts talking about how he doesn't know if he's ready for a relationship or how serious he wants to be. I responded by saying "hey, why are you talking about a relationship when we don't even know each other outside of work? why not just be friends and see what happens?" He seemed to be agreeable to this but ever since then we've had some sort of turmoil to work thru every week. Then two weeks ago he tells me he really likes me a lot and likes flirting with me but he doesn't think there can be anything more. He's wasn't dating anyone when we first started talking but now he is dating several people and he thought I should know. I really feel like he was just messing with my head but I'm not for sure. He also asked if he could still flirt with me at work or if he should just leave me alone. Ever since then I've been in a state of anxiety made worse by the fact that I have to see him every few days at work for 12hrs. and he still acts the same way towards me. On my days off when I think I'm working past this he ruins it by texting me.
My biggest conflict right now is if I should just let things roll like they are. I really don't want him to know how I'm feeling or that he has had this kind of affect on me. At the same time I feel I like I should say "you know, I don't know what you want from me, but you need to stop. if you want to talk to me at work, fine, but please don't text me anymore. I don't need this in my life right now."
I'm 34 yrs old and feel like I'm in some sort of high-school thing. Any advice?  |