If someone is threatening suicide, tell them you are going to phone the police because you're worried about them and it is too heavy for you to deal with on your own. Their reaction will tell you all you need to decide if it is blackmail or not.
If they continue to do it, phone the police, explain that your friend is threatening suicide and ask them to carry out a welfare check on them. If your friend is telling the truth, then hopefully they will get the help they need. If they aren't telling the truth, they won't do it again.
And if someone you know does commit suicide, please don't ever think that it's your fault. If a person is that troubled, then no individual is powerful enough to save them if they want to die.
The same goes for those of you that see a friend is in a controlling relationship - it's up to them to figure it out for themselves. Our relationships are as healthy as the individuals within them. There is no such thing as someone "not letting" another do something, unless they are physically restrained. We sometimes allow the control to happen because we are afraid of the consequences of doing something the other doesn't want us to do. And it is this fear that creates the environment in which we allow others to exert their control. And controllers are very good at playing on that fear.
Just my opinion, of course.
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