It's normal to have these. I recommend finding someone who's developing at your pace, who is cool with talking about things.
Slamhot boy and I, for example, can discuss things and be happy about them with no expectations for the future. So we're driving to get bagels one day, and he goes, "Yeah, I was thinking about how cool it would be to have a daughter." And it was a really endearing moment. And it passed, and it didn't freak me out or have me thinking about a ring.
Sometimes people just like to daydream. Slamhot likes talking about having a family because it's a goal of his, not because he knows I'm his absolute future lifemate.
My brother said something good years ago, that if you're a monogamous type, that you SHOULD look at your partner as potentially being a spouse in the future, even in the beginning. You need to look at and evaluate that. If there's no chance, why date them?
But truly getting to know someone takes awhile, and in that time, you have to talk, not assume plans.
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