If you really feel at the lowest low after a debate or an oppinion you feel really angry about. I would suggest you to find out the Swedish Glam-rock band The Ark, they have the most beautiful lyrics that really, really are about those sort of trouble. As I have nothing more to offer then to read or listen to their lyrics (Often written souly by Ola Salo the singer) mainly the song "It Takes A Fool To Remain Sane" and some of those few worth mentioning songs "Absolutely No Decorum", "Ain't To Proud To Bow" and "Echo Chamber". Those songs will maybe not make you more happy when you encounter your relatives, but as a mantra of some sort only in your head they lead you to not feel bad about yourself afterwords and maybe leave you off feeling that they at least are not playing dead.
Other lyrics from this group is good too to listen to, to stretch out ones opinions and feelings towards them. And the best thing is, if you find other lyrics of the same topics (as the songs I told you to look up) from artists that the relatives likes and play them loud when they come to your place. Since music is such a good source for making people stop and think, even if you trigger them subconscious.
It seems a bit harsh or even evil to do this. But think about it, all people does this kind of things even if they do not know it. When you come to a house of a friend, he or she is probobly having a CD on of any sort, and the lyrics is sometimes important to your friend. Even if you do not think about the lyrics yourself maybe, just maybe after hearing the same melody that is a good one you start to listen to the lyrics.
Worth a try at least. I know The Ark and the way Ola Salo is (he is very famous in Sweden) have helped many young people to feel better about themselves and becoming more openminded, even towards the opinions they hate from people they hold dear.
Love Leelene
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