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I am at the point where I would never ask a girl out unless I know absolutely and beyond a shadow of a doubt that she likes me and would say yes. Since there is essentially no way to know this, my prospects look rather grim.
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An inability to ask out a girl makes things harder.
It doesn't make it impossible.
If a girl develops emotions for you and understands the fact that you have a mental block when it comes to asking her out, she might ask you.
As long as you have your emotional shields active it's however difficult for a girl to develop feelings for you.
Taking dancing lessons will remove a bunch of those shields.
I started taking dancing lessons after a girl who felt something for me invited herself over to my house. I just couldn't make any physical contact with her because I was anxious to touch her.
This experience made my realize that I have to do something. I went to dance lessons and eliminated the issue.
Last week a guy who's new to dancing judged something that I do as groping girls. I didn't know what he meant. In hindsight he probably meant that a dance move that includes leading the girl by touching her hip.
The move get's taught at normal dance lessons. It's not unreasonable when I dance it in the club. Today it's something that I don't even think about.
Before I started dancing I would however also have had a hard time touching a girl at her hip.
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But it is something I absolutely, 100% genuinely want.
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I don't think that's the case. You don't seem to be willing to do anything to change.
At the beginning it will be painful for you to take dance lessons. It will be outside of your comfort zone.
On the other hand it's less painful then going out and asking 50 girls for their phone number and getting rejected by all of them.
Take your pick. You can also avoid to choose. That would reveal that you aren't really motivated to do something about your problem.
If my rhetoric is a bit too blunt I'm sorry. As the forum closes down this might be my last post on your threads. I have to say everything that's to be said.