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Originally Posted by Beingist  I understand. I probably should have been more clear. When people push my buttons, I consider it an opportunity to clean up my own buttons. That's what it means to me by "taking responsibility". |
I know, I understood you. I wasn't speaking about you or even me, but about many people I have seen come here with serious emotional difficulties, posted and I feel got "shamed" or shouted away by the dominating voice. Several of those wrote with me in pm after seeing some post I had made in their defense, so I know what they were feeling. They are gone, so they aren't represented here now, but I am saying on their behalf, they tried to join this forum and left soon after their first posts because they found it inhospitable.
And isn't it interesting how once you speak out about something against the dominating voices, all of a sudden people who agree with you start coming out of the woodwork and contacting you to voice their support and tell you that they shared your experience?
@St33med: There are apparently many people who agree with me. Maybe they are the silent majority and maybe the people who were helped are relatively few, and were most likely people who somehow got into the good graces of the dominating voices.
Angela and almost everything she said to me under the pretense of help had a destructive effect on me and my progress, and I'm saying this in public. How many left this forum before even getting started because of feeling attacked and how many have remained silent and muffled their activity to avoid going against the grain? We'll never know.
For the record, I don't know anything about the reasons for or the formation of the new forum, so I don't claim anything about that. But I have read the rules there and they seem very exclusive and controlling. However, I thought I read somewhere on here that that forum was made because the dominant voices on this forum were displeased with this one, and particularly with the recent crack-down on moderating. It's like the clique dominating this forum just took their clique into their own little exclusive forum and invited the people they wanted to it. And there may be nothing wrong with that, but it certainly proves beyond any doubt that there was a clique here that was somehow excluding the majority of the forum members from their graces.
And I do think Steve must have become more compassionate (nevermind considerate), because I remember how I felt when I arrived at this forum back in 2006-07 and he was a lot different then. But the perspective you have on his change depends entirely on where you've been standing all this time. Meanwhile, the dominating voice on this site has remained exactly the same throughout all these years, and now has formed its own forum so that it may enjoy its own company exclusively and ensure that it can remain exactly the same for years to come.