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Originally Posted by Beingist  Blissy. |
that's cute.
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Originally Posted by Beingist I sensed it, too, but I consider stuff like that a challenge to transcend, which is why I've hung around. |
I've hung around too, since 2006. But I began shy and I never came out of my shell on here, because I was feeling like I had to constantly defend or explain myself to people who misjudged me or didn't read my posts carefully or simply had no compassion and in the last months I withdrew almost entirely from direct interactions (at least I exercised strict control over my posts to ensure that I avoided an experience I didn't want)
Concerning transcending...Often people will come to a forum in a vulnerable state because they have found they need help or don't know how to transcend or help themselves out of a serious situation in their real life. I never could relate to that, especially those who would come on saying they were suicidal. I've been suicidal and when I was, the last thing I would ever do would be to go onto a forum to discuss it. But if people do that, if they are reaching for help and think they can get help that way, then...it seems quite awful and cruel to attack someone who is already about as low as a person can possibly ever get in life.
When someone is that low, you don't talk about transcending--well, you can, but it would be as useful as throwing a life preserver to a drowning person with no arms. And if you start regurgitating the usual "100% responsibility" or "being at cause" stuff which became the hallmark of this forum, you might as well just push the drowning guy under. That just gives them more fodder for self-pity and guilt. It's just their state of mind.
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The decision was, apparently, preceded by a directive from Steve to be more considerate of the more sensitive posters of the forum
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Really?
See how Steve has changed since 2006
No wonder they left to make their own private forum; they must not have liked being forced to be considerate. That's good now, though, we can all separate and be with the kind of people we like.