Originally Posted by CroMagna
Ron, I respect your opinion but I disagree with you. I don't see anything wrong with casual sex. I don't see it as an escape from confusion. I see it as an expression of happiness and peace. My lovers never hurt me. They're my friends. Not everyone needs romantic love. I like the label of slut because I have taken back what was supposed to be an insult and changed the defintion to a woman who has lovers, is happy, gentle, peaceful, and giving.
As you describe it, that is "love". I sincerely didn't label casual sex as escapism and I don't see it as that.
The distinction doesn't lie in the labels but in the intent. If you're having fun sharing, then it's love that also satisfies the sex drive.
If you're consuming another person to get relief from confusion where it's all about you, then it's an escape using the sex drive and the mental relaxation as a drug.
My true message was that the clients won't be there for love, but to consume you and that may not feel so good and it may be dangerous, that's all. No judgment....I don't care about labels, just clarity.
I called a hotline and now I feel much better. The counselor and I realized together I had internalized verbal and psychological abuse. We decided that I should continue to be myself regardless of how society feels and that I should pretend that society doesn't exist. I should just stick to my inner circle.
In my waking up story, this was my realization...that the standard I was trying to achieve in my life was one created by a sick society. I realized that I can't realize my innate joy unless I am me at all costs. I don't have any relationships with my dad or sister because they judged my waking up as something selfish and negative. Oh well....that's the nature of this beast.
With clarity you don't have to pretend society doesn't exist. If you can see how sick it is, then it's easy just to do your own thing and not worry about who thinks what.
Thanks for letting me share this...I totally support your determination to be yourself!