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Not so long ago, Cado volunteered to become a mod here. With his g/f Mariana Trench poised to become forum admin, I think the two of them were looking forward to being the effective king and queen of the forums here. I was neutral on Cado since I didn't know him well, but I followed our usual procedure of running him by the mod team. They quickly voted him down. He asked me to reconsider, but I wasn't going to overrule the decision of the mod team. He gave me the impression he'd wait for Mariana to become admin and then try again, perhaps assuming that she could just make him a mod..
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I can't talk for Cado and Marianna, but I can talk for myself and..
Steve, you can't really be serious with this, can you? Cado and Marianna making a conspiracy in order to rule these forums? Um, what? Do you seriously believe this? Honestly, how do you even come up with these conspiracy theories involving people who have done a lot for this community, especially when your theories are clearly out of match with the character these people have shown here in these forums?
I believe it's safe to say that all of us has something to be grateful for to you, because most of us benefited a lot from your content over the years, as well as from this community which was started by you. Many connections that were made here turned into friendships and even into happy romantic relationships. I also believe that many connections that are still weak at the moment will turn into a lot more few years down the road. It only happened because you've started your blog and consequently this community. I'm grateful for that and I believe that most forum members and ex-members are, even the ones who are really emotional over this.
All that being said, you've hurt a lot of people over last few days, people who care about each other:
Many people who you've accused with participating in some sort of conspiracy against you and these forums have been active and valuable members of this community for years. It probably doesn't seem that way to you, but to most people, me included, these accusations seem ridiculous. I mean, it's not new members who you don't know at all we're talking about. You know these people for years. Is it really surprising that people feel hurt when absurd accusations are thrown at them by someone like you? And is it really surprising that others who observe this happening are not impressed by your behavior?
We also have mods involved in this. I can't speak for them since I never was one, but from what I've seen, they all were really decent people who were dedicated to this community. They, combined with active members, were the ones who kept the community that you've started together, devoting a lot of their time and energy to it. I don't know how they feel about this all, but if I were a mod here and would be publicly accused with something like that and then banned, I would take it as an insult, because it's really a slap in their face. I don't appreciate behavior like this and many people doesn't, especially when people we're talking about are they friends.
Another thing is that you are banning people left and right now. Unless most active members who were banned have multiple personalities disorder, I can hardly imagine them trolling someone here. I don't know what messages got deleted, but to many people, including me, it seems that you're banning everyone who disagree with your recent behavior and speaks their minds about it. I think that many events that you perceive as personal attacks are not personal attacks at all in eyes to most people.
Steve, obviously, it's your forum, so you can do anything you want with it and in it, no matter how selfish or disrespectful to others it would be, but don't be surprised then that people are not impressed by it at all and speak their mind about it, many times in not the most respectful manner possible.
With all due respect, your behaviour over the last few days does seem completely irrational, disrespectful and selfish. I don't have any idea what's going on through your mind. I'm really surprised to see this kind of behavior from you.