Originally Posted by HeartfulColourful
How can I deal with my ambition? It causes me immense anxiety and stops me enjoying music. Would you give up your creative desires? I donít think I can go through yet another year of not achieving my goals.
I used to have this same problem and can tell you what is unequivocally the BEST cure. All you need to do is develop a habit of goal setting, planning, achieving and learning by analysis.
This is EXTREMELY easy and fun to do as well. All you need to do to get started is set yourself off with easy goals
but which are ever so slightly outside your comfort zone
. That bit is important as you are clearly struggling to step out of your comfort zone when challenges arise (I was exactly the same). Make the goals fun ones... for example, I recently did a firewalk which was really good fun and it ticked off an item on my list of comfort zone expanding goals.
The aim here is one which doing this method will DEFINITELY achieve... to retrain your mind to see you as a consistent achiever who sees things through to the end result.
It is a habit you need to develop and nothing else. I can promise you that doing this properly will change your life for good. You need no other method.
Pick a goal now, a relatively easy one and consciously and methodically achieve it. The 'consciously' part is very important as you are proving to your brain, look what I am doing, this is who I am. This is what I do. I concieve, plan then achieve, every time... this is how I roll now. Watch and learn!
After each goal has been achieved, evaluate what it taught you about achieving goals. What were the mechanics of the process which contributed the most to its completion? What action would have stopped you achieving that goal had you taken it away? and so on. You will soon realise what it takes to achieve a goal and your brain will duly respond by becoming your ally rather than your imprisoner.
This is not just a good idea, believe me, it's the cure.
All the best my friend.
P.S. If you would like any more clarity on anything I've said, respond to this and I will explain further.