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Old 12-23-2011, 09:37 PM   #10 (permalink)
Cochonette
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I dig it. But I would add "connection." Or "intimacy." This is a problem for me. I have a hard time feeling connected to people. I have found this problem in my dating experiences so far. Sometimes I'll feel very connected, but other times frustratingly disconnected. It's been my tendency thus far to see the other person or the relationship itself as the source of the problem... that I found them boring sometimes or something. But I think it's more my own need to learn to enjoy EVERY moment and not just when they're giving me a lot of input. It's about bringing your own joy to the relationship in order to stay feeling connected to the person instead of losing your sense of intimacy due to frustration. Then again, I don't hear anyone else complain of this issue... is it because the women I've been dating are just ones I've been less compatible with, or am I just exceptionally neurotic and disconnected?

It also seems like love, acceptance, understanding, and connection all reinforce one another because they're all really one and the same. To love and accept, you must understand. To accept and connect, you must love. And so on...
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