| | Let them go
You let them go.
When you stop and think about it, what right do you have to not let them go?
They got this switch that can be turned-off for the darnest reasons. The only way the switch gets turned back on is if you let them go. Trying to get to the real reason why the switch is off can be injurious to your health. All you'll get is "I need my space."
You'll know if the switch has been turned back on when the brilliance returns to her countenance.