Originally Posted by Anna Conlan
I once briefly dated a guy who was a writer. He had written a lot of inspiring content and when I met him I thought he was amazing. He had to be, since from his writing he seemed to understand life and live it well. So well that he was teaching and inspire others.
But I soon realised that the person who wrote the inspiring content was not perfect. Or even amazing in my eyes. I was disappointed. In fact, he had his challenges in life and sometimes struggled even with the stuff he taught others
It is specifically because I saw Steve as projecting himself as perfect that I did not
admire him or feel he was someone I could look to for guidance. From a superficial, egotistical point of view, you want his approval for everything you do in your interactions with him, but that has nothing to do with being helped. I don't get it - is it because everyone thinks they are perfect, and so they can only be taught by someone they believe is perfect? Am I the only one who knows that someone who is perfect can't
help me, because they have not struggled with or overcome the problems I have to deal with? This is why I feel glad that he reacted this way - now I know he is dealing with the same kind of problems I deal with...and maybe he will gain more insight from this experience in how to help people dealing with the same kinds of issues in the future.