Originally Posted by Criseyde
Next time she doesn't want to talk about something, don't press her -- give her space. Tell her you'll help her if she wants. Continue to be as loving and understanding as you can. Bit by bit, she may come around and start trusting you. Or she may not, and the relationship may end. But if she does, it would be the best gift you could give, and either way, you'll have done your best.
I've started to lean toward this, too. Thanks for the advice. Thing is, she doesn't always deal positively with space or actually appreciate me giving it.
Eventually, we seem to work it out. For example, today we've talked and resolved things a bit.
It's a conundrum. I'm just trying to keep my patience.