Originally Posted by Vaganova
I grew up in Utah--around Mormons. From what I've noticed, face to face (online is a bit different), this is what makes non Mormons happy: sex, weed, money, and um. Sex, weed and money.
Sex makes you happy through chemicals, weed makes you happy through chemicals, and money applies to both parties. Mormons may be happy through a mind game, but at least it's not a chemical game.
But a happy Mormon has to be around other mormons for the mind to stay open. Happiness and love happen with open minds. So common believers cling to each other. Mix Mormons with different believers and the conversations become debates, the minds close and the happiness is over.
Believers have to stay in the bubble of their beliefs with other similar believers in order to protect the bubble and have this illusion that their beliefs are real. And the belief that keeps them going is some kind of salvation. Take that away and who wastes time with belief?
The trick to happiness is not a trick at all, but a transformation from being a closed minded dogmatist to an open minded realist. Then one can be in any crowd and never be offended because one's self worth and identity doesn't come from that. Mormons have the ego identity of "Mormon". Challenge that ego and the mind shuts and their happiness goes with it.
And that's true for any group.