The opening post was clearly not written by someone who is slow, uncreative and boring.
I can tell that much. I'm not saying this to cheer you up, but I can tell those are the words by someone who is very bright indeed, but is simply facing a very normal problem in life.
In fact this is one of the most poignant threads I've read on this forum. It's all well and good to talk left and right about self-love but the truth of the matter is....that the people who always did it, don't know how they do it...and the people who don't do it have no one to ask how to do it.
Save perhaps for people who have REALLY experienced both sides of the equation of course. I'd like to hear more replies to this thread from different members.