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Originally Posted by awu  How did you make most of your friends in College?
I am finding it difficult to make as many friends as I would like to have. What's worse, I'm now in my 4th year, not my first, so you'd think I'd be experienced by now.
I have never had enough patience to stay in a club for any length of time, so I rely mostly on meeting new friends in classes. There are 2 problems with that strategy.
1. Once you make 1 friend in a class, it's hard to make more. The 1 friend takes time and attention, which can't be use to scout out other friends.
2. It's hard to make friends with people who have other friends in the class (basically, the flip side of the first problem - people who already have friends are devoting their time and attention to them).
Plus, there's just a few minutes at the beginning and end of most classes when you really have a chance to mingle.
Should I be joining more clubs? I'm not in a situation where I have no friends at all, but I would like more. My college is known for its clubbing and excessive drinking, which are things I'd never do. If you ask me, a great way to spend Friday night is to go bowling ;-) |
I don't think joining clubs or just focusing on individual people in one class is the answer. It varies for some people, but for me, I don't really find a great deal of benefit from making friends in college classes. It pays to make searching for friends, girlfriends, and/or networking people in general in a number of places everywhere, not just any one particular place.
I'll search for friends not just in school, but even walking on the street, out in public, at the library. There was even one time my ex-girlfriend and I(still together at this time, though) were at the bookstore and we met a guy named Frank and had this long conversation about the meaning of life with him. He claimed his purpose, as well as everyone's general purpose, was happiness.
I think one key thing is to not let yourself be boxed in by the impression that you shouldn't say something - just be yourself, say what comes to mind, and allow the commonality that people may or may not have sort itself out.
Or at least, that's sort of how I've handled it, and it's worked quite well.