Yah, I've felt that way at times during extreme distress.
I don't think there is anything inherently wrong about not wanting to talk to someone who is suicidal or really distressed. I know how stressful it can be, especially if you have a long term relationship with someone who is unable to help them selves. I can also get why some people don't want to speak about painful emotions.
I don't get why they just don't come out and say that though. I mean, it is a pretty easy thing to do. 'Look, I'm sorry you feel this way and I acknowledge your pain, but I don't have the resources to help you'. I don't see the need to say something that has the purpose of derailing the topic at hand and make it seem like it is because there is something 'bad' about the speaker.
May be they see some sort of value in deflecting attention away from the fact that they don't have the resources to deal with the situation?
Oh well, I'm glad that this thread was started. I got a few ideas from a few current threads that I think I can use in my life in a meaningful way.
Luci, if you ever have another 'I want to shove a pen through my eye' moment and feel like talking, feel free to send me a PM.
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Originally Posted by elucidate  Even here, I got this once when I posted that I was getting the impulse to jab myself in the eye and someone said I just wanted attention. Um...no, I really did want to poke my eye out with a pen at that moment. It wasn't for attention, it was from feeling so desperate and in so much pain.
People make things worse and they don't even know it with the things they say to suicidal people. Even so called social workers who see it every day. |