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Originally Posted by jamestl2  I can’t really afford professional help, I’m in college. |
Does your college have any counselors?
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Originally Posted by jamestl2 My focus has also been largely, towards my business, spending a great amount of time and energy on it, but somehow she still finds a way to lurk into and invade my thoughts.
I’ve also tried thinking about other women, but then again, I start to think that I don’t want to cause them any similar harm, I’d feel like I’d just be using them to get over her, and I don’t want to put anyone through that kind of pain. Plus, I do not exactly have the most social skills in the world. |
What about just general socialising with guy friends or groups of friends? I find that always helps me, as long as those friends don't include extremely affectionate couples. (nothing wrong with that of course, it just doesn't help at all when you can't seem to get what they have)
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Originally Posted by jamestl2 I know that I don’t want to continue to feel this way, and I don’t know what else to do. Unrequited love is the WORST feeling in the world.  |
Never had a bad trip or a psychotic episode of some kind have you?
Seriously though, I've been where you are many times since I was about 17. Both frequent socialising and meeting new girls helped, even when the same situation repeated itself. Finding someone new to turn my attention towards showed me that I was wrong in fearing that I'd just be using her to get over the last. That became completely irrelevant as a new infatuation developed.
Making new friends and forming close relationships with many girls reduced that feeling of need which used to fuel all those distracting thoughts, the same ones you seem to be experiencing. And the reduction of that driving need allowed my attraction to become more wholesome and no longer just infatuation.