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Originally Posted by MagicalRealist  ...
One thing that helps me is to go "shopping." Browsing in expensive stores, looking at objects I might want to buy, is part of it. But so is feeling comfortable in that kind of environment, as if I have every right to be there (because I do!).... |
Excellent suggestion, MagicalRealist. Actually, that is something I do from time to time. It's a bit of a challenge in the area I'm currently living in because good quality upscale stores are not as common. Walmart is the most popular store around here.
However, I do take advantage of trips to visit family where I did grow up. I grew up in Northern New Jersey (USA). For those of you who are familiar with that area, you know there is no shortage of shopping areas, stores, etc. and the parking lots are always full.
Over the Thanksgiving holidays, I took a trip to one of the many malls...one with upscale stores...to purposely do just what you suggested. It was nice being around an active, crowded, mall. Unlike the mall in my area, this one didn't have most of its stores sitting empty. I walked around with my son and pretended I had all the money available to me to buy whatever I wanted...but just 'chose not to spend any money that day...didn't see anything that struck my fancy...nothing I couldn't live without...add to my collection...etc.'
When I was done window shopping, I noted my emotions and carried them back home with me.
I also did the same thing while visiting my relative's homes. I 'borrowed' the visuals of my relative's nice homes and used them as my own...especially how everyone acted in the homes...in other words...acting at home there.
Unfortunately, the visuals only lasted so long because when I came back to my area after the holidays, I was bombarded with a constant visual of where I live. The one with the 'Walmart way of life.'
Thanks for your response.
BTW: no, I cannot move from my current area at this time in my life because of family reasons.