Originally Posted by nistacular
that's an excellent point... I think it's all a game because obviously people aren't going to get to know you in the first 5 mins of a convo. So it's because they don't know who you are that it becomes a game.... Thing is, in most human relationships, the end goal isn't always to get to learn each other, and build something out of it... I just wish people took more time to build personal connections than fake on the surface-type relationships.
We introverts gotta stick together
I don't quite agree. For me at least, there's a 'game' even with people who I 'should' know well e.g. friends and family.
In the big social situation, perhaps there is nothing problematic about superficiality. I mean, unless there are particular people there with which you want to become more intimate, then it would follow that you would remain at the superficial level.
But when in that big social situation such as a gathering of family, the set up, the assumption, the basis of the event, is that the people are important to one another. And if the level of interaction is so superficial at what is meant to be the deepest sort of gathering, then I reject that.
If I am doing something important then I want to talk about what is important to me.