Thanks for all of the replies so far guys.
Brutha: The “knowing” how to dance thing is not very important for me, as I’ve never had any interest in dancing for dancing’s sake. It’s more the fact that 1) I can’t bring myself to “let loose” as everybody else seems to do, and 2) the fact that I was unable to find a girl who wanted (or at least didn’t mind) dancing with me. Still, I may take those lessons you’re recommending at some point, we’ll see.
Artelus: Thanks, but the thing is that this one thing puts a big damper on everything else. Despite my intelligence I don’t do nearly in well in school as I’m capable of, as I can never focus; my mind invariably focusing on this issue of mine rather than on fully grasping Keynesian economic theory.
Acting Like Godot: I am not really speaking specifically about sex here, though I can see how the title might cause you to arrive at that conclusion. Rather, I am merely depressed at my inability to form non-platonic relationships of any kind with women.
Moonrambler: What other approaches would you recommend? I’ve never had any luck meeting women anywhere outside of this environment (not that I have within it either)
BillyTheAdult: Believe me, I am absolutely, one hundred percent not using women as a way to prove myself to my family or anybody else. When I said that I was letting them down, what I meant was that they want me to be happy more than anything else, and they can sense that I’m not. My desire to have a relationship with a woman is a purely intrinsic one. As far as me talking about not getting in trouble, what I was trying to convey was that I don’t really feel like I even know how to let loose or goof off. The money thing I put in really only to give some background on myself and my living situation, and also because while I don’t consider having money as something that should “get me girls” it seemed worth mentioning that I’m not being written off as a result of a lack of it (not that I would be interested in the type of girl that would do that in the first place). I don’t think the world owes me something any more than I think I owe the world something.
Babuji: I didn’t really talk about this, but I am capable of talking to girls. I’m not going to sit here and tell you all that I have tons of close female friends or anything, but I do speak to girls during the day without the intent of dating them. In fact, I essentially only talk to girls without the intent of trying to date them, since they would have to be interested in me a way that they are not. As far as clubs or organizations, in high school I was in the Model UN, Mock Trial, and Philosophy clubs, as well as Chorus, A Capella and Jazz Choir, and met exactly 0 girls from all of them combined. I’m good friends with a lot of guys who are very good with women, and I’ve talked with a few of them about this issue. My friend Alex, who could at this point probably be considered a PUA based on his qualifications, has told me on multiple occasions that the only problem I have is that I’m not “getting out there” and “you need to be more confident, girls would love you”.
Tor: Life owes me nothing, correct you are. As far as asking girls out or things like that, my attempts thus far to follow that advice have yielded what at best I would term catastrophic results. Going back to the suicide thing, if you reread my initial post you’ll notice I only considered it on a purely theoretical level, much the same as I’ve contemplated what it would be like to fly like superman. If I expected success, I would be asking girls out right now rather than writing this post, and probably would not wait several years between rejections before trying again. As colorful as your conjecture about my physical appearance was, I must disagree. I am overweight, but also go to the gym three times a week at minimum and have lost thirteen pounds in the last three months alone. Regarding your statement that “The only thing preventing you from being successful with girls are your mental-emotional blocks”, I’m inclined to agree with you.
RonSouther: I’m not really sure where to begin replying to your post. I’m just going to ignore the Jewish thing completely and say this: My “culture” is not responsible for anything you’re attributing to it. I haven’t been to temple since my Bar Mitzvah seven years ago, and have never in my life cared even the slightest about religion or what some book written by long dead theologians says. Religion or culture plays no part in my life or decisions whatsoever.
CroMagna: I’m looking for any type of non-platonic relationship with a woman. As far as being picky goes, to be picky implies turning down opportunities. I’ve never had any to turn down. I would say my standards are pretty fair. Meeting girls over the internet is just not an option, at least not until I’m out of school, when I might be willing to consider it.
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