Originally Posted by AngelPsychic444
I have a question for RonSouther.
In your post up above you said:
With this realization, that joy is beyond the scope of the mind, how does a person take practical steps to realign their lives with joy? You stated that we take the wrong path time and time again (and I agree with you), so how does the average person make positive steps in the RIGHT direction?
I only ask this so all your advice, which is really great, can be used by an average person to move into a place of the heart, as you said in your post, and to help get out of their minds.
Thanks....this is a really HARD topic because it has to be lived. It's not a recipe like making a cake, putting the ingredients together and, presto! Out comes a cake. In hindsight it is that way but only in hindsight. In hindsight, the path out of confusion can be seen.
The path that I see is the one of living from ego/logic/mind, thinking one can control life, getting so entangled in a life that he created (financially, kids), then still realizing that not only is he still not happy, still not relaxed, that now he's stuck. He can't buy anymore happiness and his current life is getting harder and harder. No more escapes, now into depression as his ideas of life collapse. He built a life on beliefs yet he can't walk away from what he created.
To me this is the midlife crisis.
This is just one scenario but the common thread is simply that one gets in so deep, can't buy anymore happiness and can't leave whatever he created.
This ego collapse can involve drug and alcohol addiction, sex addiction, gambling addiction. The point is that between the beliefs and the addictions, there was enough relief and enough hope to keep the house of cards standing.
But one day a strong enough wind or storm, depending on whether his cards are made form tissue or from concrete (like a fanatical believer), those cards are coming down. Truth always self corrects illusions. The truth of how life really is always, always, always destroys fictions. Now whether the person realizes this is another story!
In this realm, we truly have to fail in order to succeed. That's why it's not a recipe like the cake. Most all of us are raised to live from logic and that logic has to fail us badly before we can no longer trust it anymore. Living from logic creates a closed mind and the moment we don't trust our logic, our mind opens up out of fear of the unknown. THAT is the moment where the journey to self begins IF we don't merely latch onto a new belief system. If we can tap into a source of true perspective that helps us lift the fog of confusion, finally we can grow free of a life of guessing logically and replace it with a true knowing.
So I don't know how to teach someone to travel this path. First that person has to collapse mentally, then he's ready for perspective, and not before. Before the collapse, his mind will reject anything that contradicts his habitual thinking, his belief system.
It is the meaning of "when the student is ready, the teacher will appear."
All the pop psych is a mind game...something that the mind won't reject...something that will strenghten it's grip on your life but in a fresh way. It never lasts because it's still logic driven and life isn't logical at all.