Originally Posted by ultimate
I think I need to get mine up.
It probably varies from time to time.
I'd ask if you understand the difference between self-esteem and self-confidence to make sure we're talking about the same thing. Self-esteem is simply having value because you're a living being. It's feeling wonderful because you are alive. Self-esteem develops very early in childhood through being held, loved and supported by your parents despite the fact you have no skills. And when I say skills I mean a baby cannot survive without parents. We need self-esteem to function.
Now lets talk about self-confidence which is different. Self-confidence is something you earn from doing things and learning skills. It is true some coaches and therapists can help you increase self-confidence but if you don't know what you're doing that can be disasterous. Again, self-confidence is earned.
So to summarize: self-esteem is a feeling of value you have from being.
self-confidence is a feeling of value you have from doing
. And many people get them confused.