Most of my relationships have been "open" because I always require that from the women I date. It usually ends up being an ongoing awkward point of contention through the relationship though. And you're right - it takes a lot of time and energy to coordinate something like that! I think the only way it really works is if you have one established relationship, and then when it is evolved and trusting enough, you talk through it with your "number 1" and bring others in, with the understanding that the new person will absolutely not come between you and number 1. They will only add to the communal pleasure. And if they do start to come between you, whether intentionally or not, all bets are off and they are kicked out of the "circle".
The guy that is the expert on this is Stephane at ideagasms.org . He's got his number 1, Ghita, and several others. He only dates bisexual women, which makes the coordinating issue easier since they all have their fun together at once instead of separately.
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