Feminism to me meant equal work, equal pay and the advancement of women into top management and into fields such as construction and engineering. The end of tolerating sexual harrassment.
I think some of the unintended consequences are:
It now takes 2 incomes to support the average middle-class family, whereas before it was more of a choice for mom to work outside the home.
The number of single mothers increased dramatically. The idea that mom can be a superwoman and do it all by herself.
Chivalry is dead or dying. Men bust in front of elderly women and ladies with babies to board a bus first all the time. And men used to refrain from cursing in front of women in public. I know, some women do it as much or more than guys do now, but there's still something so nice about a man who abides by a little old-fashioned courtesy.
If you saw "Starship Troopers", there was a scene where male and female officers showered together without anyone batting an eye. I think we are becoming more jaded to differences between the sexes, and it will be a sad day when unisex showers appear in the name of equality and when a (straight) man looks at a nude lady and has no reaction at all.
I also don't see how much longer we can justify an all-male military draft/registration. Not sure that's a good thing.