Originally Posted by Naito
That is why I do not undestand why women take birth control pills every day for years if we are only fertile maybe 3 days per month. It is really not rocket science, people often know more about how their dishwasher works then about their own body.
Actually, an egg generally has to be fertilized within a 24 hour window, but sperm can live up to 7 days in optimum conditions, so the best safe zone is about a week.
but, yeah, it's kinda silly to throw your entire hormonal system out of whack, but it's easier than having to think about it, and sometimes the possibility of an accident is completely unacceptable. Been there, but I'm not doing it any longer.
Erin, thank you for this essay. I've been in both places, once coming from a completely loving place and once coming from a more scared position. I am still not completely over the second one but the first rarely gives me a second thought. I was very close to that first spirit, spoke with her often, but I didn't allow myself to even consider the second one, because I couldn't face thinking that it was a mistake to let it go.