I would much rather have someone looking into my eyes when we're speaking than to watch them go crosseyed gazing at the bridge of my nose. And if they're looking at my nose, Amandaaa, I'll probably wonder if I need a tissue!
When you think of someone
staring into your eyes, you imagine it to be an aggressive act. And in some cases it is. But actually being present with someone, holding eye contact with them during a conversation, is an act of generosity. It's an act of
giving up control, not trying to control. It's an act of love*, really seeing someone and being seen.
*an act of love that can be done even with a stranger! It's intimacy, but it's not sexual.