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Originally Posted by CoolBee  These are the sort of judgments people do make though! When I was obese (and I hit a BMI of over 35 at my heaviest), I was very conscious of my ill-health but was super-achieving at the time, completed my PhD in space physics, senior manager working very long hours and so on, carrying a huge stress burden with no spare mental capacity to devote to dieting. Yet I knew people were making these judgments about me, consciously or otherwise. |
It seems that there are two sides of the coin, though:
a) If you're out of shape and your grooming is not that good, people judge you because you're not good looking.
b) If you're in excellent shape and your grooming is great, people judge you because you because you're good looking (because if you are blonde and have big boobs, you're clearly shallow and stupid).
You just have to choose which problem to have, I guess (I chose B
).
I think the second type of judgement is more popular in academic environment. I think it's because of the fact that many people who are successful there were nerds and have been bullied by good looking people of the same sex and rejected by good looking people of the opposite sex. I remember one guy in Cambridge who would consider every good looking girl to be either stupid or a slut. People just have issues
I have noticed that being in Cambridge (my ex studies there) drilled the association "nerdy lookin = smart" into my head, because most people there are not eye-candies to be honest, but really smart academic-wise. I work in parties now and we get like two nerdy looking guys a party and I have caught myself thinking "He must be really smart" few times already. The next thought would usually be "WTF I think he's smart?"
Also, when you're good looking girl, people also make assumptions about your sex life as well, which I find hilarious. I remember I read an interview with Nicole Sherzinger where she said that she never had a one night stand. A guy who read an interview with me claimed that she's obviously lying. I was interested how he can tell that, expecting some "Lie to me" sort of stuff, but got an answer "Because she's hot", the logic behind being that she clearly likes sex and is being hit on all the time by good looking man, so no way she could resist having a one night stand. This is just hilarious