Lots of good feedback.
I think I will setup another appointment with our counselor.
I'm going to give my marriage everything I've got. It didn't get married to get divorced just because things have been really hard.
I wonder how long I can last without sex. I really don't want to find out. 3 years is 3 years to many.
I hope for a sex life that's fun and close and frequent and something that my wife really wants to do with me because she wants me and she wants me to feel good and loved.
I hope for an equal marriage where I feel like I don't have to walk around on egg shells, where it's ok for me to want to have sex.
Thats interesting point about lies
"Lies are told to closed minded people to avoid conflict and retribution.
A closed minded person can't handle the truth, doesn't want the truth and will punish the truth.
Closed minded people have a superiority thing about them. They don't deserve respect beyond basic human dignity."
She and I were both raised mormons. Taught the earth was only 6 thousand years old and sex before marriage was the worse thing you could ever do.
In mormon doctrine the only thing worse than having sex outside of marriage is murder.
Alot of mormon women have guilt about sex and I know alot of mormon men who look at porn and masturbate. I think its sad how guilty I was made to feel while growing up. I thought I was a really terrible person. Then one day I learned over 90% of men masturbate that was a suprising thing for me to learn. It changed my perspective a bit.
My wife and I like to read books together. Do you have any good book recomendations?