There are many things in the world that do not drop onto our lap without any effort. What you need here is a support system for cushion against your struggles. I am have difficulties trying to create mine as well.
An example of a good support system for you is to get a sufficiently large group of friends who have the ability to help you and also have the helping attitude. They are not easy to find; you'll just have to try to find them. Examples of places include forums, blogs, making friends sites, local group meetings, online group meetings, etc.