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Originally Posted by Criseyde  Maybe IQ isn't changeable, but I think IQ is meaningless for most people. |
Well, yes. It measures your ability to do well on IQ tests.
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Originally Posted by Criseyde Emotional intelligence is more useful and important [...] And emotional intelligence is definitely changeable. |
Quite possibly. In fact, it tends to increase with age and experience, but most people never seem to develop much of it at all, ever (just like "common sense", which seems to be quite uncommon when all is said and done.)
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Originally Posted by Criseyde there's also the fluid/crystallized theory of intelligence, and it seems to me that both can be improved. |
I'll have to do some reading on that one. Sounds interesting!
The thing is, I have always been intelligent. Not emotionally intelligent, not wise, but from the time I could think, I could think well in ways that generally indicate intelligence. That has never changed. My EQ (which was pretty low for a lot of my life) often actually interfered, of course.
My looks, on the other hand, have changed constantly, my entire life. I've been thinner, fatter, younger, older, cuter, not as cute, and so on. I do actually think I could take steps to improve the way other people perceive me (as far as "beauty" goes), i.e., I could stand to lose some weight, get my teeth fixed (I have some missing ones; I normally wear a partial denture, but having implants would help, I think), get cosmetic surgery, etc. I'm just not really motivated in that direction. If people want to deal with me, they have to do it on an intellectual and emotional level, and if they can't get past what I do or not not look like, it's their loss.
