Join Date: Mar 2010
Dallaz - Thanks for asking. I'm sorry if you haven't seen where I've talked about what inner conflict is and what to do with it. I've talked about it so much and I thought I've mentioned it in numerous threads. I was giving all kinds of information about it in the "Akashic Records and Authentic Response sessions" thread. I've also been mentioning about this in the "Consciousness Shift - What's Happening to Everyone - Questions and Answers" thread. I'm happy to discuss it some more, but here is a small excerpt from the former thread I just mentioned. I've added the bold for emphasis:
I've said this before, but it's our own internal conflict that creates what we call karma. Karma is not an outside imposed agenda. If we are holding onto anything, from any lifetime, we will guarantee some kind of setup of external circumstances to help us release it. A response right now, cleans up any karmic influence, like dropping a stone in a pond and watching it ripple out into the lifetimes.
How do we know if we have conflict and need to respond more? Take a look at your core beliefs and see if your thoughts, feelings, words and actions are integrated. The healthy core beliefs will be things like: I'm safe, I'm loved, I'm welcome, I can have my needs met, I can be myself and be in relationship, I can say no, I can ask for support, I can express emotions and be vulnerable, I can express my sexuality.
If we have any area of our lives that we are playing the victim, holding onto the past, projecting onto others, gossiping, blaming, shaming, not forgiving, having addictive/repetitive behaviors, having addictive/repetitive behaviors (that was a joke to see if you're paying attention) , resisting change, struggling, needing to be right about something - all of those conditions will lead to a reaction and not a response. All of these are examples of conflict.
When we have conflict, it affects our relationships, our ability to communicate, our ability to manifest, our spiritual path, our health - pretty much everything.
What happens when we try to manifest or attract our heart's desire? When light shines through a stained-glass window, only a reflection of the picture in the glass comes out on the other side. When we have conflict, what we're trying to attract, ends up resembling our conflict, just like the light through the stained glass. When we're free of conflict, it's like shining light through a clear piece of glass. The pure light goes through unchanged - just like the energy we place into calling our heart's desire. So what we attract is a pure reflection of what we want.
So how do we release conflict?
One of the ways is what Vince already mentioned which is merging dualities to create a neutral state. For instance, if we have anger about someone, find the compassion that also exists about that person. I was angry at my father for how he treated me as a kid, but once I learned how totally dysfunctional his own childhood was, I could bring some compassion into the situation.
Another really easy technique is to make a list of our core beliefs and see if our thoughts, feelings, words and actions match. What do we believe about ourselves, relationships, power, money, sex, fame, work, society, religion, spirituality. Examples of conflict include anywhere these don't match (i.e. I love my work but I hate my particular job. I have to smile even when I'm angry. I want money but it's unspiritual.)
There are so many techniques to release conflict out there - therapies, coaching, journaling, support groups, workshops, retreats, meditation, martial arts, learning about healthy boundaries, hynotherapy, bodywork - tons of things that can help. The techniques matter less than getting to the core, and the real core to releasing conflict is to see exactly what it is that we need in the moment and give it to ourselves, and to embody what we want from others (i.e. we want to be acknowledged by others, so we become self-acknowledging). To become internally-validating once again.
Last edited by ChrisL; 12-12-2011 at 03:13 AM.