Now this is a subject I have made way too many comments on over the years.
In my opinion it isn’t as important to be attractive as it is to have a great personality and that is why I would rather date an ugly woman with a good personality over a good looking woman that does not have one. Some people might think I am hypocritical making that comment since I am married to a former model but it was her personality that drew me to her not her body. Good looking people are a dime a dozen these days and it’s much harder finding a woman with a great personality than one who is good looking, shallow, egotistical and has the brain mentality of a five year old.
After my first girlfriend passed away and I tried dating again I made the mistake of trying to get close to women that looked like her (blonde hair, blue eyes, perfect smile etc) but were in fact nothing like her at all. Some you couldn’t even have meaningful conversations with and it was basically like trying to talk to a brick wall except a brick wall was more interesting. I come to find there are a quite a few people in this world that rely on their looks to cover up other issues such as Social Anxiety Disorder, Lack of Personality, Narcissism, Annoyingness, Egotism and in some cases even low self esteem.
That is not to say every good looking man or woman is like that because that is certainly not true but I have met some beautiful women over the years that may have been pretty on the outside but that beauty did not reflect on the inside and at the same time I have met some lesser attractive females that were fun, interesting and down to earth. Most of those women were married or in relationships and went on to live happy lives like one of my friends while the attractive women would wind up with partners that cheated on them or treated them like dirt.
Looks can be misleading and that is one thing my wife and I have had our share of experiences with in the past. When Hailey was modelling she met a lot of women in the industry that she said were rude, ignorant bitches that thought they were better than everybody else. One which I won't name would pick on the new girls and she got into a big fight with her. She still has friends that are in the modelling industry now but she believes a lot of models are bitches with huge egos. This is basically my definition is the term pretty from a Katrina Elam song. I think I may have posted it before.
For beautiful eyes, look for the good in someone every day.
For a beautiful smile don’t miss your chance to give one away
For beautiful lips say something sweet
For beautiful hands help those in need
That’s what it’s really all about
That’s what makes you pretty inside and out
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Not especially. I've always been attracted to a person for their mind (sense of humour, intelligence, ability to carry on a decent conversation, etc.). I certainly recognise very attractive people (men, particularly; I'm hardly immune to a "sexy fireman" calendar!), but as far as relationships (friendship, romantic, whatever) go, I'm not fussed. In fact, I, personally, have tended to be somewhat distrustful of very good looking men. In my unfortunate experience, they tend to be arrogant and they tend to be users. (I know this is not true of all good looking men; this is only my own experience.)
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Same thing with me but from a male perspective and this might sound a little corny but when I tend to judge a woman by the size of her heart.