Well...I may as well get it out there...
I have never been attracted to someone who isn't good looking. It sounds awfully shallow, but I don't think attraction is something I have actual control over! It'd sure be nice to be attracted to some really great guy with a really awesome personality, who just so happens to be homely... but for me... it just doesn't happen.
Sadly, I'm not particularly physically beautiful myself, which in a way makes mee feel rather hypocritical! I find it hard to expect people to be attracted to me, when I'm not attracted to average looking guys!
In the vast majority of my interactions with people, their appearance is irrelevant, but when it comes to romantic relationships it's a different ball game.
This IS something I struggle with, as I hate to think I have this defect that makes me attracted to only good looking guys
. Overall, I see myself as this kind, accepting people who loves people for who they are and not what they look like... but with romantic love this just isn't the case for me.
My definition of attractive isn't as narrow as butterflyeffect's though... In fact, it encompasses quite a range of physical types, but all would fit into a "conventionally handsome" framework. Height is irrelevant, as is hair colour or skin tone. Generally you can just show me a pretty boy and he'll be attractive to me
(although I don't fancy Justin Bieber... maybe because he's just too young though
he may improve with time).
I do probably fixate on my own appearance a bit much too. I don't believe that fixating on how I look has made me more beautiful over time though (as BillyTheAdult sort of suggested
). I also don't spend hours a day trying to look more beautiful, I think because I'd rather just be naturally beautiful rather than "painted on" beautiful which can be washed off at the end of the day!