Originally Posted by Balbrae
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I would concur with your observation to this degree: when I listen to audio affirmations when I sleep at night, I get a feeling of "solid" relief during the days that follow--not in my mind, which could be fleeting and mercurial, but in my solar plexus area, which stays with me for a long time. Please allow me to give you an example.
One issue I have manifested in this life is a proclivity to please others excessively, often to my own detriment or dissatisfaction. I'm not talking about constructive, "healthy" pleasing of others, I'm talking about the kind of co-dependent pleasing that is based on self-deprecation, which does not support my higher good. With that premise established, let's talk about the feeling you may be describing that I experience, when successfully dissolving this issue of mine.
The positive, audio affirmations that I listen to during my sleep work on a deep level, as evidenced by how I feel when I am awake in the days that follow such night-time listening. Say, I'm at the office, and I see certain people or bosses that the "old" me would want to excessively please, to my deprecation, insecurity, or unhappiness. I now just walk away or back to my office, very serenely, avoiding the please-others scenario. Rather than feeling some motivational "pep talk" in my head, and rather than feeling rebellious or independent-minded, I simply feel "solid" in my core. When I don't give in to old habits to excessively please others, I don't feel a "void" anymore by not scratching that itch. I just feel "normal" or "solid" and I choose to go to my office without trying to feed insecurities by pleasing others. This feeling is not a "mental" feeling at all. This feeling is not a "get-even-by-not-talking-to-you-because-you-don't-support-me-enough" feeling. This feeling is really not a feeling, at all. It's simply a "solid coreness" that allows me to continue to behave in a way that serves my higher good.
Now, this is quite remarkable to me because, in the past, I have relied heavily on motivational books and philosophies--to "think" my way to better behavior. But that always left me feeling "empty" inside because my habituated, unconscious mind was not following the dictates of my conscious mind's mental inspiration. As time wore on, my mental "pump" would fade, causing an even greater dichotomy between my conscious and unconscious mind. On the whole and in the long-run, it is my unconscious mind--not my conscious mind or "conscious will power"--that controls my behavior and the realities I manifest. However, with the audio-affirmation "therapy" I give myself, I am reaching my unconscious mind, and I am left feeling no "pump" whatsoever, just a "solid core." For me, feeling "psyched" or "inspired" works mainly on a superficial level, subject to evaporation. On the other hand, feeling a peaceful, "solid core" works on a much deeper level, with no "fireworks." That is how I know that audio affirmations listened to while I sleep are affecting me on a deep, subconscious level, "re-writing" my habituated patterns and core beliefs about my worthiness and function in the social world. (By the way, I listen to my audio affirmations while typing away at my computer at work--sometimes all day long--even though the volume is turned way down, so as not to distract me. Hence, my subconscious mind receives these positive messages of audio-affirmations on some days, up to 18 hours a day. This additional, daytime listening further accelerates the benefits and "healing" provided by this "unconscious-mind therapy"--over and above that provided by nighttime listening.
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