Originally Posted by Criseyde
I don't know if I think this is true. I think it might be a cop out from those of us (I include myself in this) who don't want to admit to vanity or shallowness. I'm not sure though.
For example, I've known some physically beautiful girls who were also cripplingly insecure and constantly put themselves down.
But what were their actual beliefs beneath that. Also maybe because they were insecure it led them to cultivate good looks over a period of years as compensation and now they have an eye for beauty.
I don't think you are taking this comment in entirely the way I mean it, but I do probably somewhat mean it the way you seem to be taking it.
I mean if you take two reasonably attractive girls, about even, from a young age, like 10, and one of them is very concerned with looks, and the other more with say book smarts. Which of them do you think will be better looking by the age of 25, and will that have been because of natural beauty, or from the cultivation of beauty? It's just like you said
I think that most people are reasonably attractive.
So to me it's all about not only what you do with it but for how long. Mental beliefs surely manifest themselves physically, so by being concerned with looks you actually become physically better looking.