Originally Posted by BillyTheAdult
This is something I've thought about a good amount before. Maybe not in those exact terms but basically, in my opinion it is not possible to separate grooming, and attitude, from pure physicality, they all sort of mesh into one. I mean to the point that they change one anther on the deepest levels. They are quite literally, insperably, the same.
I don't know if I think this is true. I think it might be a cop out from those of us (I include myself in this) who don't want to admit to vanity or shallowness. I'm not sure though.
For example, I've known some physically beautiful girls who were also cripplingly insecure and constantly put themselves down.
Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot
I just came back from a 10-day holiday in Korea and I wanted to share something with you, Criseyde.
While I was there, there were at least 10 occasions when strangers would tell my wife, my children or myself that we looked beautiful, handsome, attractive or pretty.
It was very strange. Some examples:
1. We were at a theme park. Three teenagers started following us around. Finally they said that they would like to take a photo with my daughter (age 7) because she was so pretty.
2. A taxi driver went into a long monologue in his broken English about how handsome I was, and how lucky my son is, to look like me.
3. At a market, there were several stalls selling hair clips. Two shop owners fawned over my daughter, wanted to doll her up, pinned her hair with all kinds of hair clips, and eventually gave her five clips for free (we bought nothing at all from them).
4. At a restaurant, the female waitress kept staring at my wife and finally came close and peered at her face and asked her if she was wearing lipstick. My wife said no, and the waitress said, "Wow," and basically said that my wife had such naturally beautiful lips.
5. At another restaurant, a customer who could barely speak English came over and tried hard (with single words, hand gestures and thumbs-up) to say that my two children looked lovely.
6. At a park, a stranger told my wife that I looked like a certain TV star.
Basically, this hasn't happened to us before. I think that we look alright, maybe a little above average, but this is the first time so many strangers have repeatedly told us we look great.
I suspect that this was either:
(1) a rash of LOA synchronicities triggering each other off; or
(2) beauty is in the conditioned eye of the beholder, and we just possess certain looks which are considered attractive by Koreans.
I bet you do have beautiful children!
How important do you think it is to be good looking? I'm guessing by the way you described yourself that it isn't that important to you, but I'm not sure.