Ubermensch Day #44: Intrinsic Motivation (Sunday) Meditate like a monk:
meditated for 7 minutes. (total accumulated time: 59 minutes). I follow the same ritual everytime - set the cellphone to ring at 7 minutes mark, sit in Seiza position, 5 foot from the wall, close my eyes and breathe. Like uninvited house guests, I choose not to entertain my thoughts for the next 7 minutes. I sit like cat (they're infinitely patient). My foot starts to feel funny from the dearth of blood circulation. I continue to sit before the ring tones erupts, the 7 minutes is up. It feels much shorter. Meditating have taught me nothing last forever. Life is short. Exercise like a War God:
n/a. Sunday is my rest day. I have my exercise routine patted down:
Listen to self improvement audio (15 minutes) while doing yoga stretches:
- Monday: gym - Overhead press (shoulders)
- Tuesday: gym - dead lifts (backs)
- Wednesday: 2 KM jog
- Thursdy: gym - bench press (chest)
- Friday: gym - squats (legs)
- Saturday: 2 to 5 KM force marched
- Sunday: rest
Finished Frank Kern “Core Influence: how to make lots of people do almost anything … but in a cool way”, (1:56 mins out of 1:56 hr). Thank god I finished it after leaving it to dust in the hard drive for 2 months.
- Everything you say, do or write to your market matters (In other words, you have to care for your visitors)
- Piece of information solves the person's problem and move them closer to their ideal identity, results in advance. (In other words, the more value you provide, the more value ($$) you get)
- Borrow the voice of the market (In other words, instead of saying .. "You probably think ...", borrow the voice of a market in form of a person who wants to start ZXY habit. "Hey Ubermensch, how do I hit the gym all day, I wanna lose fat and make my penis look big" - "Well you see Billy Bob, first you put the ice-cream out of your mouth")
Really, really cool stuff. This will help me immesely on my path to become a more "effortless" marketer. Read a fascinating book:
Read 25 pages of Principles Of Social Competence by Manhood Academy (Progress: 150/181 pages | Real page count is 284 pages total).
The author talks about exercising functional authority. I thought he's going to teach me how to smack hos, but approach is more practical and benevolent
- Dyfunctional punishment: physical punishment, guilt tripping, begging or humiliation (quality of an emasculated male)
- Functional punishment: verbal disagreement, rejection, ignoring, negative assiocation, social pressure (qualitfy of an alpha male)
The goal of exercising functional punishment is to remove disfunctional female behaviors (rudeness, flakiness, shaming, passive aggressive behaviors etc) and replace it with functional female behaviors (nuturing, feminine charm, co-operation, support). Once compliance is met, reward must be dispense (affection, provision, protection)
Thinking back in my past relationship, mid-way through I failed to exercise functional authority. Naturally, my ex-GF exhibit dysfunctional behavior that went unchecked, and that eroded our relationship to the point I had to cut it of from frustration.
Contrast that to my current relationship, I consistently exercise functional authority (unconsciously and by accident), which removes dyfunctional female behaviors. I have also worked to removed dyfunctional behaviors in myself. The end result: we're deeply in love, because order is achieved.
Now it all makes sense now. Why do women stay in abusive relationships with "jerks" and "♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥"? Because they're exercising (dyfunctional) authority. Even dyfunctional authority is sexier then no authority at all (You hear that, limp wrist nancy boys)
Therefore, when we see a fat person (or someone's who's chronically broke, or sexless) have daily dysfunctional habits. The fattie fail to exercise authority over her habit (AKA, putting the cake out of her mouth). She becomes frustrated that she's fat, yet she has the sole authority over her habits. On a side note, Fat Acceptance Movement irks me. Fat shaming is a good counter-strategy against FAM.
Since I have a girlfriend(s), I'm not actively persuing women by mall and college campus pick up. However, as a social experiment I will in the future, write a log of approaching 5 women per day and getting their phone numbers. (in the name of social experiment and social skills improvement) Learn a foreign language:
60 minutes (Total accumulated time starting at Dec 01 2011: 232 minutes)
Topic particle ( 는 and 은)- used for the subject or topic of a sentence. Rules: if the noun ends with a vowel, attach 은. If the noun doesn't end with a vowel, attach 는
(는 = neun)
(은 = eun)
존은 (John, ends with Consonant, add 은)
영수는 (Young su, ends with vowel, add 는)
Identifier Particle (가 and 이) - used to identity the subject or thing talked in the sentence. It is more concerned with who did the things asked. Rules: Like topic particles, identifier particles follow the same rule: 가 is used for noun/thing ending with vowel, 이 is used for noun/thing ending with consonant.
나는 샀다 = I bought (places more emphasis on "what I did")
내가 샀다 = I bought (places more emphasis on "who" did it)
Drink = 마시다 (Pronouced: masida - Mah, sa, da)
Eat = 먹다 (Pronouced: meogda)
Park = 공원 (Pronounced: kun-won)
Word of the day: Melancholy /[mel-uhn-kol-ee/ a gloomy state of mind, especially when habitual or prolonged; depression. - Amid the melancholy, there is a glimmer of resilience and a hope that feels hard-won. Building an online business (Yeah!):
700 words article for page. (Progress: 22/50 pages)
I have a problem with inadvertently writing in a condescending tone. I really don't mean it, it's just how cold and logic INTJs are. However this is bad when I'm writing the articles because it seems like I'm insulting the visitors.
For example, if I'm writing in a dating niche it would be something like this:
"You should man up and approach women, you limp wrist nancy boy. It's not that hard. God damn, don't even talk to me."
After listening to Frank Kern audio and implementing his core influence concept, my writing has transformed into something like this:
"I was really nervous when I first started this whole "approaching women" thing. I thought it was weird and nerve wrecking. (Believe me, I have social anixety). But after approaching them and saying "Hi", I realize that it's not that of a big deal. They didn't bite me (thank god!).
I'm also a scrawny guy and I'm not a big fan of going to the gym. (The only thing I lift is my video games controller, LOL). But I decided what the heck, for 1 day I'll go to the gym and see what I can do. I realize that the gym is a nice and friendly environment, and lifting weights is pretty easy. Over the couple months I have gained 7 pounds of muscles by performing simple exercises. A girl in my class started to compliment on my arms, which is a good confident booster".
Building an online empire blue print:
The only way to create a website that will be money for years and years to come is to build an authority website with incredible lasting value in an ever green market (weight loss, wedding help, self improvement, sex help) instead of fads (Justin Bieber sex dolls, lastest celebrity diet, funny cat pictures)
I will simply emulate success by looking at the market, and what authority website is in the market at this moment, instead of coming up with a new "break through". (A very common mistake. I definately won't be trying to invent a new niche - "How to dress nice for fat people?" heh)
- StevePavlina.com is perceived as an authority website in personal development with his hundreds of useful articles that move people towards their goal of becoming a better person.
- WebMD - Better information. Better health. is an authority website in the medical field. The website help people maintain a healthier lifestyle, and by providing medical advice.
- Bodybuilding.com is an authority website for - uh, body building. I think. (just kidding)
What these websites have in common:
- Long, helpful articles that help people move closer to their goals
- 300+ pages worth of content
- Branding - to build trust and establish authority
- But most importantly ... they care about their visitors
By shouldering the responsibly of actually caring for their customers and providing useful, actionable content, the visitors naturally reciprocate - giving 1 way link, word of mouth referal, buying stuff off the website etc
300+ pages of content. I have a two options: write 1 page per day, or hire people to write for me. Since funding is low, I will elect to write the articles myself, just 1 article per day. (A high quality article).
But I should also be adding a more workable schedule, like link building and adding content into the email campaign also. Watch something inspiration:
Watched 2 episode of Serial Experiments Lain (12/13 episodes). This anime is truely one of the weirdest anime I ever watched, and this is coming from a weird person. Lain makes the conclusion that we don't need our bodies, humans are merely software ... or do we really need our bodies? At one point, some guy masquerading as God in the "Wire" (internet) manifest in real life and becomes a monster. Ok... okay.
Continue ...'d (post char limit, wtf)