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bigfoot · 11-30-2011, 05:37 AM

Spoke to a girl today I have been meaning to talk to for a while. She works at one of the companies I travel to for work. Her response was EXTREMELY positive. I've known this girl was attracted to me for a while. Interestingly, I also noticed some bizarre subconscious thoughts creeping into my head after speaking with her. Namely: I can't believe this girl actually likes me, she's too hot to date me. This is silly and irritates me. Its not valid. I know rationally its not valid and I think I have to keep reinforcing that message to my subconscious mind to let it sink in. Leaving aside for a moment the fact that are no prerequisites for attraction (i.e. you don't have to look great, make 1MM per year, etc.), there are plenty of objective reasons to believe she would be attracted to me.

1.) I have tremendous social proof at this office. I sit in a corner office across from her cubicle when I travel to the company. I have vice presidents coming in and out to meet with me. I am a full 10+ years younger than any of the people who are coming to talk to me. Definitely the only one under 40 (in my mid twenties) with an office there.
2.) connected to this, I have money and I'm sure she's aware of that
3.) I am a successful, powerful guy.

I am all hung up on how beautiful this girl is, but she has her imperfections. Body is amazing due to working out constantly. She's a little old though and it is starting to show slightly. Also, unmarried at 30+. A little short. Has kind of a lame job at the company. So WHY am I putting this person on such a pedestal? Bizzare man.

Also, dont worry about being nervous. If someone percieves you as being nervous while doing something, its a positive thing because it shows you can push through fear.

11-30-2011, 05:37 AM	#36 (permalink)
bigfoot Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: chicago Posts: 44	11.30.11 Spoke to a girl today I have been meaning to talk to for a while. She works at one of the companies I travel to for work. Her response was EXTREMELY positive. I've known this girl was attracted to me for a while. Interestingly, I also noticed some bizarre subconscious thoughts creeping into my head after speaking with her. Namely: I can't believe this girl actually likes me, she's too hot to date me. This is silly and irritates me. Its not valid. I know rationally its not valid and I think I have to keep reinforcing that message to my subconscious mind to let it sink in. Leaving aside for a moment the fact that are no prerequisites for attraction (i.e. you don't have to look great, make 1MM per year, etc.), there are plenty of objective reasons to believe she would be attracted to me. 1.) I have tremendous social proof at this office. I sit in a corner office across from her cubicle when I travel to the company. I have vice presidents coming in and out to meet with me. I am a full 10+ years younger than any of the people who are coming to talk to me. Definitely the only one under 40 (in my mid twenties) with an office there. 2.) connected to this, I have money and I'm sure she's aware of that 3.) I am a successful, powerful guy. I am all hung up on how beautiful this girl is, but she has her imperfections. Body is amazing due to working out constantly. She's a little old though and it is starting to show slightly. Also, unmarried at 30+. A little short. Has kind of a lame job at the company. So WHY am I putting this person on such a pedestal? Bizzare man. Also, dont worry about being nervous. If someone percieves you as being nervous while doing something, its a positive thing because it shows you can push through fear. Last edited by bigfoot; 11-30-2011 at 05:40 AM.