Personally, my fear has always been this. The easier it gets for you to attract people, the less you'll appreciate them.
If you know you can very easily replace your partner, then you will not put as much effort in to your relationship. If you do not put in much effort, then he or she will respond in kind. As such your relationship will not be as fulfilling than if, say, you two were the only people stuck on a desert island. If you do not have other options, then you tend to work harder at making the most of what you have. You share more of yourself, and its that sharing that facilitates trust and bonding.
But if you do not have that fear of loss, then you will not have the required motivation to make much of the relationship. You will not develop trust. Your bond will not be very strong. And why would it be? Why would he or she reveal the deepest, most intimate parts of themselves to you, when they know that you could just walk out tomorrow and never look back?
And you will not feel like he or she is special, and so you will not treat him or her as being special, and as such your relationship will not be special.
If you have a collection of, say, five girls, then of course you would not care so much if you were to lose one or two, right?
Can anyone counter my train of thought?
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