Originally Posted by James81
I don't think there are stupid choices, even the ones that seemingly APPEAR to be stupid based on our societal paradigms. I think, very literally, that there are choices and there are consequences to those choices. Action...reaction...cause/effect (not to go all Merovingian here or anything
). I think even the choices that I make that knowingly cause some sort of suffering on my part...such as the time I said "I do" when I knew that we'd be divorced in five years...or the time I signed on the dotted line for a house and a car that I couldn't afford. I don't see those as stupid choices. I see those as things I chose to do that had certain affects on the direction of my life. And those choices have turned into very positive learning experiences.
In the same way, I do not see the choice I made to smoke everyday for eleven years as stupid. It was something I chose to do, it was a means to an end, and it had certain affects on me. I can live with that choice, even if it was a harmful choice (to my body that is).
There are no stupid choices, because every choice you make (whether you perceive the reaction to be positive or negative) shapes us.
I understand your perspective, and I think I would substitute the word "wrong" for stupid, as you're using it here. I don't think there's anything wrong with anyone's choices, like they shouldn't be as they are. Like you say, amazing things happen out of all kinds of choices.
And: I still think some choices are very stupid choices. The choice to give your child a book of matches. Choosing to drive drunk. Getting pregnant in an attempt to improve an abusive relationship. Choosing to ignore signs of hernias.
Regardless, though, people have the right to judge or evaluate others or their choices as being wrong or stupid. The only person who gets to choose what goes on in my head is me ... and I think anyone who thinks they have any say about my rights to think or judge is wrong and stupid.
Nahh, just kidding... except not really JUST kidding.