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Originally Posted by Angela  In my evaluation, some choices are stupid choices. That I myself also make stupid choices doesn't mean my evaluation of other people's stupid choices is invalid. If I'm lucky or self-aware, maybe noticing other people's stupid choices will help give me more access to trying something else about my own. |
I don't think there are stupid choices, even the ones that seemingly APPEAR to be stupid based on our societal paradigms. I think, very literally, that there are choices and there are consequences to those choices. Action...reaction...cause/effect (not to go all Merovingian here or anything
). I think even the choices that I make that knowingly cause some sort of suffering on my part...such as the time I said "I do" when I knew that we'd be divorced in five years...or the time I signed on the dotted line for a house and a car that I couldn't afford. I don't see those as stupid choices. I see those as things I chose to do that had certain affects on the direction of my life. And those choices have turned into very positive learning experiences.
In the same way, I do not see the choice I made to smoke everyday for eleven years as stupid. It was something I chose to do, it was a means to an end, and it had certain affects on me. I can live with that choice, even if it was a harmful choice (to my body that is).
There are no stupid choices, because every choice you make (whether you perceive the reaction to be positive or negative) shapes us.